Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Protecting your Privacy

Hello All,

I wanted to explain a little bit more about my research in order to ease your mind about participating and sharing your stories, advice, and experiences with me!

1. First off, I would appreciate any and all of you to become a member and officially join my blog. But I understand if some may feel uncomfortable having their name related to the information they share. So if that is the case for you, it is ok! You are able to choose the option to submit your post anonymously!

2. Second, I want you to know that if you do decide to become a member and comment on my blog under your real name, that I will be creating pseudonyms (fake names) for everyone in my study in order to further protect your identity. So no persons real name will be released with the information they share with me.

3. Third, If posting anonymously and knowing that I will be creating pseudonyms still does not ease your mind then you may respond to my posts and comments at my email address given with this blog site.

4. Fourth, If you are interested in further sharing more information beyond what is discussed on my blog then please contact me and let me know so that we can set up an individual interview.

Please feel free to contact me with any further questions you may have that I have not addressed already. I will be happy to answer them for you! :)

I look forward to getting to know you all and your stories, advice, and experiences of your mother-daughter relationship!

More posts to come very soon!!


Friday, April 22, 2011


Hello Everyone!

It is official! I FINALLY got IRB approval to go ahead on my research for my thesis. The information gathered so far on this blog is being used just as a pilot test to see how exactly the blog would work to help in my research.

So if you know of any daughters who have just made the transition to college or who are preparing to make the transition to college or any mothers who have daughters that fit this criteria. Please send them my way. They can contact me on this blog or at my email address: cheryl.faneca@ttu.edu.

I will be posting on here more regularly so be sure to check back often! :)


Saturday, March 19, 2011

A Tribute

For a class project I created a video of pictures of my mom and I as a tribute to our relationship. I enjoyed reliving past memories that accompanied each picture of this video. It was a lot of fun and I hope that those of you who do follow my blog or read my posts enjoy this as much as I do.

Let me know what you think! :)


Monday, March 14, 2011

Spring Break

Well it is finally Spring Break!

My sister in law just gave birth to my first nephew yesterday. I have not met the little guy but I must say I am in love with him already. My mom flew in for his birth so I have been pestering her for constant pictures and videos of my new nephew and his big sister, my 5 year old niece, with him. Another way technology helps keep me in contact with my mom. I love it!!

I must say that I am definitely homesick for my family right now. I was already homesick but now that this little guy has made it into the world I am even more anxious and homesick for my family.

I am looking forward to my weekend coming up where I will be able to visit my brother and his family along with seeing my mom. Until then I will be relaxing and resting a little bit on my week off for spring break.

More posts to come soon! :)


Monday, February 28, 2011


I have had some very productive days this past week. On top of finalizing my chair for my graduate thesis I have run numerous amounts of errands and have also completed the ever-dreaded taxes and FAFSA. Technology has proven to be a very important part of me accomplishing these two things specifically.

Some of you might be shocked but the other weekend was my first time to complete both my taxes and FAFSA on my own. I know how can I be 23 years old just doing these things for my first time. Well as numbers are not my thing my mom has been a huge help in this area. But this year it was time for me to put my big girl pants on and complete these on my own.

As I was nervous accomplishing such big tasks for the first time I asked for some assistance from my mom. While the tax program proved to be straightforward it was still nice having someone agree or disagree that I was doing things correctly.

The cool thing about me accomplishing my taxes and FAFSA is that my mom (while living 540 miles away) was right next to me helping me step by step and through every process all because of technology!

For 3 days in a row we logged on to Skype and video messaged for a few hours at a time, of course talking about our day and catching up on each others life, but Skype has this feature where you can share your computer screen with someone you are video messaging with. This means that I was able to share my computer screen (while working through the tax program) with my mom who was able to see which step I was at exactly and was able to make sure that I was clicking the right things etc.

This proved to be a FANTASTIC way for me to transition to learning to do my taxes and FAFSA on my own without having to be thrown right into it! No only did technology aid in me completing my taxes and FAFSA with my moms help, but it felt as if she was right there next to me at my computer guiding me through it.

And this is just one way in which technology has impacted and strengthened my relationship and communication with my mom! ☺


Thursday, February 17, 2011

Mental Rest


I hope you all are looking forward to the weekend as much as I am. This has been a very long week for me, with grading my students speeches and preparing them for their upcoming test and informative speech on top of staying ahead in my own classes including getting started on my thesis.

I am extremely optimistic about my thesis research and hope to eventually get my blog more public in order to reach numerous amounts of mothers and daughters. It is definitely a slow process, but I am learning a lot. I have already been contacted by a wonderful woman who wants to do her part in helping me get my name and research out there. So the continuous support from family, friends, colleagues, and support from people who are just interested in my research is amazing and extremely appreciated.

Last night in my Qualitative Research class after discussing everyone's progress on their current research, my professor wanted us all to take a moment to think outside of our box, get out of our comfort zone, and take a mental rest. She handed us each a sheet of paper along with some markers and asked us to draw images related to our research. She wanted us to draw what we first think of when we think about our research and continue from there. While my drawing ended up being very basic compared to the others in class I have decided to post a picture of it to my blog for everyone to see.

It is supposed to be a laptop as my center focus of my research as my site is this blog. You can see my interesting attempt at drawing a Texas on the laptop, as I then draw in the location of my mom in Houston and myself in Lubbock communicating through our cell phones. This picture incorporates the geographical distance that I am interested in learning more about how it affects mother-daughter communication while incorporating elements of technology (laptop & cell phones) and how they aid in mothers and daughters keeping in contact with each other. So I hope you enjoy this interesting artwork of mine. :)

I wonder if anyone interprets my drawing as symbolizing anything else, or gets something else out of it?

WIth my recent move from Nacogdoches, Texas (where I got my undergraduate degree at SFA) to Lubbock,Texas for graduate school and with my mom still living in my hometown outside of the Houston area, technology has been a surprising lifesaver for maintaining our relationship.

Without the IPhone video chat capability, skype video chat, Facebook, Twitter, and text messaging I do not believe that our relationship would have withstood this move as well as it has with all this technology. It allows us to not only talk to each other but see each other as well, which makes it feel at times like we are actually there with each other.

Technology has had such an impact on our relationship I am curious if technology has had the same of different results with other mother daughter duos. What sorts of technology are common ways of communication for you and your mother/daughter? Do you try to use these forms of technology as often as possible to contact one another. Are you as a mother or daughter satisfied with your communication with your mother or daughter given the forms of technology you use?

With the way technology is constantly changing the way our world works and the way people communicate with one another it will be interesting to see what new advances technology will make that will continue to aid in keeping in contact with one another.

Until next time,


Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Important Relationship

I am in graduate school for my second semester now, and just so happened to stumble across a topic of great interest and importance to me. I began researching mother-daughter relationships and the communication that takes place between them last semester not thinking it would turn into my thesis topic. But the more I researched it and the more I learned about all the complexities of this relationship the more I realized this was what my passion was in.

I come from a single parent home where my mom raised me, so while we had our differences in my younger adolescent years, as I have matured and grown older I have come to cherish our relationship more and more.

Through all of my research on mother-daughter relationships, while girls are often thought of as being a "daddy's girl's" it is the relationship that a daughter has with her mother that is one of very great importance.

So as you think about the importance of the relationship shared between mothers and daughters, I want to pose these questions to you.

- How do you personally view your relationship with your mother/daughter?

- Have you always viewed it this way?

- What are some qualities that characterize or explain how you view this relationship you share?

I am looking forward to reading your responses, observations, comments, questions regarding this important relationship as I try to further understand the mother-daughter relationship.


Sunday, February 13, 2011



For those who do not know I am a Communication Studies graduate student and teaching assistant at Texas Tech University. My area of interest for my thesis is the interpersonal family relationship between mothers and daughters.

I have developed this blog in order to aid in my research on mother-daughter communication. I want to further understand the ever changing relationship that mothers and daughters share focusing specifically on their communication with one another when the daughter goes away to college and moves out on her own.

I am looking for daughters who have graduated high school and are preparing to move away from home to attend college or daughters who have already left home to attend college and I am looking for those mothers who have daughters that fit either of these criteria.

The social problem that I am most interested in exploring and learning more about regarding mother-daughter relationships is how do participants describe communication change between their daughter/mother when geographical distance is increased between them? And how do participants describe how the use of technology aids in helping them maintain their relationship with one another?

My plan is to continuously update this blog with my own personal comments and observations related to mother-daughter communication and then pose questions for you to answer and/or provide your own input on my observations.

I want this to be a place where you feel comfortable revealing your own personal observations and comments, as the more open and honest you are the stronger my study will become.

Thank you for your continued help this semester through my research endeavor.